Though there are different visions on what is called submission and I don't mean to reinvent that's why I will try to make it clear for you and me what I get from submission.Some people ask how do you distinguish the person is sub or just a vanilla?
If you search for lover and agrees to submit to that particular person he is vanilla. When he searches for submission in the first place, with or without love he is basically a sub.
I often hear that desire to be a dom is easier to understand than actually a sub one. The thing is that most think that sub is either weak or inferior or silly and passive person. Neither of them is true actually. Though the inner urge to submit is present in me, I don't transmit those feelings on other aspects of my life. At least no one unfamiliar with BDSM stuff ( ) had told me something that would imply any submissive behavior.
There is also a common misbelieve that a sub should have miserable time spent with his dom. Again, that's not a pain or suffering I am forced to take, it's my true desire and somewhat enjoyable sensations that I get from submission.
Physical submission is not a primary and ultimate goal for me. I can well do without the act itself, cause the pleasure comes somewhere from the brain or heart. Just the anticipation, the thrill is running the excitation.
Submission is not a life sentence I've chosen once and for all. Sometimes I feel like switching the parts and D's is quite ok with me.
