Those who practice BDSM ( ) are aware of the major Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) motto. Most from the outside of the BDSM realms will have an opportunity to dispel some myths on the whole philosophy of this culture. For clearing out those realms I would state those key rules of BDSM:
1. Safe is usually referred as a principle where both parties agree on safety basics. This means that basically BDSM activity should wear no risk to health. Well, the risk of course is inevitable and either sub or dom is aware of the possible consequences, but what you both realize is that you both are to take the responsibility. I personally think that in any case you should realize that if you are not going to try something harder and dangerous you should stop and tell it to your partner beforehand, and if you opt for risk than just make sure you've taken more serious precautions.
2. Sane goes as the rule for being in sober mind during a play. Yes, this really excludes the "perverts" stuff-a perception that many people from the outside have for BDSM activity. In fact, I never try to go for the stuff if I am exhausted or somehow under control and never let a domme - if he really flies of the handle to get involved with me.
3. Consensual means both agree on the rules of the play and do it on a mutual consent. You would ask:" What if I ask my domme to take my life will it be consensual?" I would not accept this as a consensual because of the number 1 rule (safe). Anyway, in all the variety of the BDSM activity the risk is almost always present and no real force should be really applied then. Of course it's quite hard to anticipate whether you are able to withstand the reality but you always agree on a safe word.
After all, the decision to enter this thrilling world should be ultimately very sound and informed decision.
