When we talk about dominance, things seem much easier than when we touch upon sadism practice. To say it clearly, sadism and dominance are not the same things because the source of pleasure is quite different for both. Dominant partner is seeking for control, and the basic urge of a sadist is to humiliate and hurt. That is pretty comprehensible. But what can be said about the core of sadism and how can we define the limit where it simply borders on assault?What I have to say that our daily life is simply full of sadism, sadism which is hidden under the mask of a sham education and takes form of common interactions between people. I am talking about violence on a daily basis that is inflicted without any consent. When I practically derive satisfaction from being dominated, it doesn't mean I will be ready to get involved in just any activity. I will not accept my partner to limit my freedom under circumstances which are off- - play.
Don't you come around the domestic violence when you are criticized regularly or when he is exploiting your feelings to the degree that it expels any normal flow of communication and humiliation can be characterized as indirect and insulting. Indeed, we should make a difference between sadism and seemingly sadistic practices which don't have so much to do with the core of BDSM anyway: rape or any constraining act which have nothing to do with absolutely consensual and trustful S/M play. Besides, S/M play is implicitly ruled by masochistic desires, thus meaning that basically sadist's role is not for only and solely fulfillment of the urge to inflict pain but also the coherence with masochist's pursuits.
To say it in short, sadism within the framework of BDSM play is a safe and adopted way to express your sexuality whims. That is done to make the play directed by certain rules, where the other side strives for pain and his suffering make him feel "alive" and even somewhat elated. And sadist not only humiliates his victim that is done in the context of domestic violence but also loves his partner by affording an opportunity to have a release from these deepest urges.
