To continue studying shibari as one of the most spectacular forms of bondage, I found that specifics of D/S relationships is quite interesting and needs particular attention. Pleasure of "two" vs. pleasure of "one"
Speaking of the Japanese culture in general, an individual was always less important than a group. Likewise, if we refer it to D/S relationships partnership, the progress of a group (i.e. you and your partner) overweighs the significance of separate participants of bondage play, although we cannot exclude the pleasure as a vital stimulus of any BDSM ( ) activity. Here a top is aimed at perfecting his technique of tying the bottom and bottom develops his ability to resist the bonds in a more sophisticated way. This places focus on "bondage itself" rather than getting what's yours. Very Oriental...I should say.
Absolute trust
But nevertheless the level of trust and respect towards each other is so high that some even neglect safe words and SSL principle as being unessential. It is also mainly common not to prepare and pre-communicate on a future session, which could be quite scary in western practice. One can only imagine what power and countenance a dom should posses in order to be in total control of the scene and sub's safety and this basically comes from the awareness that dom partner's respectfulness is absolutely undoubted.
What a dom gives to sub during shibari session?
Dom teaches his sub to live or to be more precise to come alive in ropes through torture and pain. Suffering is the way when we become mentally naked, exposing our dark side and uncovering what is hidden under everyday mask we wear and "nice" roles we have to play. Ropes that dom gives to his sub are actually giving him freedom. Much alike when you experience tension – it sharpens your feelings and when the tension finds its release, the sense of "new breath" becomes very acute. Nothing can give more release than ropes, embracing and constraining your body which later finds its way out.
What a sub gives to dom during shibari session?
The main thing a sub gives to his master is his body and soul to get him to experience the real power, which requires not only an ability to command but also show undeniable firmness and vigilance as well as a great deal of respect and responsibility. An absolute control that a sub offers to a dom is aimed to create a unique bond and closeness. Don’t forget that beauty is especially important in Japanese bondage. A sub tied up in ropes is a source of aesthetic pleasure and mental stimulation which is not less substantial than erotic enhancement.
