In BDSM play ( ) every part is distributed quite precisely. A Sub has his or her Dom and one cannot exist without the other. And the basic urge for everyone who takes place in the session is the desire to find a perfect match. And just the fact that I am, for instance, a sub doesn't necessarily imply I am ready to submit just to anyone in any circumstances. What a real sub wants is to give in to a person of power, the one who possesses something you want to surrender and rest responsibility on. No one is going to submit for nothing. And even if your basic instinct is to yield the power you search for the person who is first of all the one who will have the game run according to the rules and watch over the safety. What I call a perfect Dom?
The one who can both capable of compassion and austerity, full of self-importance but not pompous and probably the primary and the most significant – reliable! With all the risks involved in the play a Dom is first of all a person of great and unquestionable trust. That's why any BDSM activity was always a highly intimate thing. The sole feeling of being able to go to the heart of your potential and open up to yourself things you do not dare to do in your daily life is thrilling in itself. The Dom here acts as figure to uncover all your inner urges and give you the desired release. Of course, you like to fall to your knees and to be punished but you don't get the pleasure if you feel that Dom hasn't got enough power to rule and to lead.
What I need from a perfect Dom?
I need my Dom to control me over the exciting journey, to create a place where I feel secure, where I feel myself a part of someone else. He leads me to range along the fringe and gives me the bitter-sweet revelation of myself.
