For many people pain is seen as a negative thing or something that cannot be completely avoided but one that should be learned to cope with. We do not usually seek for pain and it may sound unusual to understand how a person can derive pleasure from pain. However, pain is one of the most desirable thing for S/M lovers.
So what is the purpose and why pain makes a day for those who are involved in S/M? Bottom is the one who enjoys to be tortured, the feeling of pain and suffering is sweet, and top is the one who urges to inflict pain (not without bottom's consent).
First timers need to learn what are the limits they are ready to accept for S/M sessions. Very often a bottom wants a particular pain for example from the blood play. It doesn't mean he will endure or accept pain from burns, but as he learns different types of BDSM plays he experiences various sensations where pain becomes the top motivation.
Enjoying pain is about looking at it from different perspective. Pain is natural and you can not only endure it but also see it as an erotic stimulant. A bottom who is getting the pain often would say that it gives incredible intensity to all his sensations and relief that follows the torture session cannot feel better.
Pain control
In order to sustain pain and enjoy it longer during BDSM session, bottom needs to learn pain control methods.
One of the most easiest ways to get the pain right is to breath deeply during a session. This increases your endurance and do not give the unnecessary restrain saving your energy for longer time.
You may also use your imagination while receiving pain. You will understand that it is all in your mind and you can imagine yourself a slave who gets his usual punishment. The setting often plays a great part to make the scene look more attractive and realistic.
Distraction from the pain can also be necessary when hard play can be difficult to sustain. You can either look at the setting or focus on something either visually or emotionally. Sometimes concentrating on another sensation works well too. For example, hot and cold play temperatures can ease pain for some time and you may ask the top to apply this technique when the pain is unbearable.
The main thing for the bottom in order to enjoy pain is to let it flow inside and accept what you really wanted resisting as long as possible.
