One of the keys to understanding the core of S/M relationships is to come to terms with each other's needs. In this regard humiliation is essential part of techniques to make bottom realize and top to fulfill their deepest urges.
What is humiliation about?
Humiliation and relationships
Humiliation is to the same degree a matter of one's individual taste and sub satisfaction in his own terms. As S/M is consensual thing, the question of dom's pleasure mainly depends on coherence with sub's needs.
Thus all the details like calling sub by names should be pre-communicated not only to create mutual understanding but also to give both parts gratification they need.
Both participants of S/M play can discover their hidden part about themselves and that is probably one of the greatest benefits of humiliation.
Though I admit that a person involved in the BDSM lifestyle can have casual sessions meeting an occasional partner, one cannot understand the taste of humiliation and most practices unless he is in a more or less committed relationship. Experiencing humiliation is as much or even more about caring each others needs as everything you do is for ultimate pleasure of both - you and your partner.
Humiliation and its emotional effect
Humiliation has mainly a psychological impact, as basically it gives a powerful emotional rebound.
Within the limits of BDSM relationships, word "humiliation" has not a hint of bad feeling as it may seem to vanilla partners. Partners, and particularly a bottom is "ill-treated" in order to get in touch with his inner desires and to find his own place.
Looking on the humiliation with the eyes of the participants you may learn that this form of submission is natural that contributes enormously to sexual and psychological arousal. There is no embarrassment, degradation or self-disrespect, on the contrary there is a lot of pleasure, knowledge and satisfaction.
Different forms of humiliation
You can begin with verbal humiliation. One of the most common elements of humiliating scene is to call your sub by various names like "slut", "whore", pet names(dog), objects (table, carpet etc). Next step can be to treat your sub according to his role. A dom may order to kneel in front of him, lick his feets, crawl, observe sub's peeing, ejaculate in his face, make sub eat dog's food and choose other forms of humiliation.
A usual practice that comes from purely psychological impact is to add physical element into play. Spanking, tying up, gagging are only ones of the common ways to do the job. As you may know, sex can be a part of the session but participants may well agree to do without it. So you may choose whether to include this part.
After scene reward is a small but really important part of humiliation scene. You may embrace your partner, kiss him and communicate about the scene-its' positive and negative sides.
You both return to your usual daily activities where both of you have other roles to play, psychologically relieved and pleased.
