Becoming a true dominatrix may require a lot of skills, confidence and responsibility. For many women, their dominant role is an expression of her deepest desires and embodiment of her real sexuality. You might have thought about trying this role but do not know where to begin. First of all you should learn how to control your submissive so that you and your sub can get the utmost pleasure.
Exercise true confidence
Becoming a domina means that you will embody a woman in power who knows what she wants and never hesitates. Remember that you set the rules and the scene, while sub is following your directions. You cannot be wrong or ask for permission. Give short orders in assertive and demanding voice. Keep in mind that true domina is strict but protective. She inflicts pain to make her sub get the pleasure.
Get to know safety issues
Whatever practice you choose: medical play, spanking, cock torture or orgasm denial always make sure you have taken all the precautions and know how to use the tools for any play. You are responsible for your sub's safety that's why it is especially important to discuss all the issues regarding your interaction with a sub beforehand. If you are not sure about some practice, better leave it until you will feel more confident. Check the time sub spends in restraint, look after sub's breath and skin coloration and be especially careful during edge play. Always have some emergency tools handy so that you can release sub when needed. Establish a safe word.
Learn how to control
Do not let your sub object to your orders or suggest you something during the scene. You may discuss all the issues before or after the scene. You should make your sub realize that obedience is the only way to get your attention. You can ask your sub any questions and expect him/her to answer you. Remember that your sub has to earn your reward and has to follow all your orders. You have different places in the scene so show your sub-his/her place and his limits.
Be consistent in your orders so that they won't sound contradictory. Be firm and prepared to difficult situations if any should occur.
Set the scene
Direct a scene from the start to the finish so that you both will have enough time to derive the fullest pleasure. Make sure there are no distractions. Let your sub know what you want, what position you want him/her to take and what sub should do to win your attention.
Your visual appeal has a great impact on your sub, so try to dress like a real domina. Of course, it's a matter of your taste to wear latex or leather, boots or corsets, just make sure you feel confident in your attire and enjoy looking at yourself as much as your sub is going to worship you. Your sub is supposed to wear as little as possible and you may even ask him/her to undress completely so that to make your sub feel more helpless.
Work on your technique
Make practice frequently and read a lot of information on the technique you are going to use. Test the toys on yourself to know how to use it on a sub. If it is spanking, you should learn how to hold the flogger properly and what position to choose and what body parts are safe for spanking. All this information is essential to make you more self-assured during practice.
