Bondage is one of the erotic plays that can be used as foreplay to the main "dish" or simply as a separate part of practice. In any way, it's hard to deny that bondage game brings excitement into intimate relationships. Bondage is a way to deprive submissive of the body movements which creates special feelings. I would say the thrill of a sub part comes from the feeling of helplessness and vulnerability. What can be most appealing to a sub who urges to give in to power of a dom?
I would recommend beginning with trying bondage as a fetish game. First, it gives an opportunity to get into sensations and define more clearly for yourself the border between comfortable and uncomfortable feelings. Second, you will be able to set the limits of further "full-dress" encounters. For instance, you may prefer rope bondage to spreader bars and partial to full-body bondage. This is a matter of individual taste and your own readiness to go to the core of the matter.
Step-by-step education is actually the best tactics for first-timers. Of course, much of the responsibility rests with dom, but sub has a control on another level too in terms of ruling the game according to his submissive desires.
Taking into account the fact that bondage can range from simply aesthetic erotic play till a more serious edge play, you will need to follow basic safety rules to perform bondage play properly:
- Comfort
- Safe words
- Safe toys
However equivocal it may sound, bondage has to be comfortable enough and it shouldn't border on really dangerous things. You should always leave the room for emergency escape from bondage.
This rule is a necessary condition for bondage, to set out those very limits and stop the game that passes the line of safety. I like to choose safe words that are neutral by meaning and I can be sure this word won't anyway be uttered under any circumstances. The most popular safe words are colors (red for stop) and numbers.
Of course, all toys can become dangerous when used improperly, but some general precautions are necessary to avoid injury. Leather cuffs are best for beginning a fetish play and are considered less risky than metal cuffs for instance.
