BDSM often involves anal play as an exciting experience for the dominant and submissive partner. The feeling of being penetrated from the backdoor, which is considered a taboo place adds to the pleasure of the sub, while a dom can enjoy the off limits sensation of total control. Many partners are particularly attracted to anal play as this is considered to be something forbidden and secret.
But anal play as well as any other BDSM play requires safety rules to prevent some common problems that may occur during it.
Types of anal play
BDSM partners may enjoy different forms of anal play:
Anal penetration is when one partner penetrates the other with a penis or a sex toy. A man can also perform double penetration on a woman with his penis for vaginal penetration and a sex toy for anal sex. A mistress will often use a strap-on sex toy, that is attached to her body to perform anal sex on a male sub. In this case, a man's prostate will be stimulated for enhanced pleasure and the sensation of ultimate submission.
Analingus is a play involving licking the anus of the partner. The nala opening is known to be rich in nerve endings, which is why analingus is considered to be a very arousing experience. Analingus requires some safety precautions as the anus often carries harmful bacteria that may lead to infection for the giving partner. It is important to keep this area clean before performing this kind of playa and use protection like dental dam or other barrier.
Fisting involves the anal penetration with a hand or a fist. Fisting requires a lot of experience and should be performed with care for ultimate satisfaction. During this play the hand is inserted into the anus slowly with the fingers shaped straight and together. Rarely, experienced couples practice "punching" when a whole fist is initially inserted into the anus.
Enemas are often enjoyed by partners as a part of foreplay before anal sex or just as a part of BDSM scenario. The sub will usually derive pleasure from being exposed to the enema as it gives a special erotic feeling and often results in orgasm.
Safe anal play
Use lubricant
There are a lot of lubricants available for anal sex with your partner. As anus does not have natural lubrication, you may need more lubricant for better gliding and reapply it when necessary.You may use water-based or silicone-based lubricants, but make sure your lubricant is compatible with condom or sex toys(if you use any). Avoid oil-based lubricants as they destroy the condom and may provoke some infections
Use condom
Using condom during anal sex is necessary for health safety. Such serious STD's like HIV can be spread through anal sex. The protection is also required as even if both of you do not have STD"s the bacteria found in the rectum may lead to infectious diseases for your partner. Condoms also allows easier clean up.
Penetrate slowly
Both you and your partner need to be patient and do things step by step during anal play. The first penetration may be quite difficult and will require a lot of relaxation. The anus is initially meant for the control of elimination of the feces, thus will reflexively clench when penetrated. The submissive partner will need to relax to allow a penis, a sex toy and especially a hand. You may do some exercising with a slim sex toy or a finger for better relaxation. When using anal toys, make sure to clean them before and after use and never penetrate with these toys vaginally as it can pass on the infection.
