› Collaring
May 22, 2007
Deciding on collaring is a serious decision one should think over and negotiate with his partner about taking the responsibility. Collar is an outward image that has its deep meaning- a commitment with responsibilities, total trust and respect. A dom who collars sub makes him not simply his slave but also takes him under control. In its turn a sub entrusts himself completely to a dom becoming obedient to follow every order of his master.
You may need to proceed from your collar of consideration status to a slave collar – a highest indication of your commitment to D/S lifestyle and your only owner. Once resolute about your relationship status and given master‛s permission, partners may arrange a collaring ceremony.
Collar rules
- Collar is given and taken off by Master. He has a right to choose how to express his ownership in a unique way while choosing a style of the collar sub will be wearing during the ceremony and in his presence.
- Wearing collar in public should be allowed by Master. But wearing collar when master is around is an obligation-a sub shows his love, trust and obedience. Even when your Master is not near, collar that is worn by sub reminds him of his commitment and he can occasionally touch it as a sign of his attachment.
- Once collared sub has only one Master. Sub cannot call other doms master as he is owned by his master. Others may approach sub with the permission of his master.
Collaring ceremony
The event of proceeding to the status of long-term BDSM relationship is celebrated during collaring ceremony. Participants may choose their own way to make this ceremony special and decide whether they want other people watch and take part in collaring or agree on a more private event.
The ceremony often resembles wedding ceremony with the same or even greater seriousness. Submissive will be led to his Master by a third person- usually a protector.
As a rule, partners have certain attributes, such as crop, leash and collar as the most expressive sign of shared commitment. Both will sign in a contract to record the event and state the responsibilities in the presence of witnesses and friends.
The ceremony may have many variations with lots of rituals involved-it‛s the matter of individual preferences, but one should remember that collaring is arranged as a big event to indicate its meaning. Ultimately, both partners should be undoubted about their bond.
# Comments
to Persephone:
i too am a sub, and a very strong person... i dont think you have to "give it all up" to be collared. If this is what your Master is wanting i would talk it over with them. i submit from my strength, and if it ever becomes a weakness both i am my Master agree that i need to take time to regain my strength, so i can serve Him better. Submissiveness is no weakness, in charactor or person, but is mearly you giveing that strength within yourself to another to guide and mold. This is ofcourse simply my humble oppinion and i know some who dissagree, but most in the lifestyle that i have met do aggree with this point.
Hope this helps and i wish you the best of luck and happyness.
~Rodia
posted by: Rodia » Aug 23, 2008 11:32 PM
Someone recently asked me to wear a collar. I've never worn one before and in fact have avoided them entirely because I never wanted to be "owned" like that. But this time was different and I agreed. Now I'm nervous because though I am primarily a sub I'm still a very strong person and I feel like I am giving all that up with just a snap of leather around my neck. He is allowing some adjustment conditions, but I know that he will eventually want it to be more permenant. Any advice or encouragement woudl be helpful. Am I really turning my inner strength over to someone else, never to be my own person again?
posted by: Persephone » Aug 04, 2008 11:29 PM
my wife is considering being collared. she is wondering about the public image as well as the "lifestyle". would love to hear from others already involved. thank you
posted by: michaelg_927@yahoo.com » Feb 24, 2008 08:31 PM
posted by: Unknown » Feb 02, 2008 09:24 AM
posted by: dave » Jan 13, 2008 12:58 AM
dorud
man ye master hastam,vali hanuz partneri peydaa nakardam;age khaanome submissive injaa hast ke maayel baashe baraaye ye zendegi sm vaaqe-i (ezdevaaj) injaa baraam peyqaam bezaareh
posted by: mehrdad 1980 » Nov 15, 2007 08:37 AM
posted by: Unknown » Nov 09, 2007 05:47 AM
I've started wearing a collar because I'm submissive and love the feel of the restrain on my neck. I'm not in a relationship at the moment—if I went to the right places I think I might give off the opposite impression—and I don't really want to wait until I enter a relationship (and who is to say I'd wear a collar quite quickly once into any relationship).
Has anyone had any similar experiences?
posted by: luffy » Oct 14, 2007 10:24 AM
My whife got her collar six month after i found her. It was more than only a play because the „ceremony” was a journey about some days.
We met Hans - the man behind SM-Factory - and he measured Katrins neck and created her collar for measurement from a plain pice of stainless steel (she also got two bracelets made vor measurement).
The clou is a build in lock - so the collar is semi-permanent. While i was months and miles away from home, Katrin had a secure-key at home, but she never used it but she had the collar worn every day and over night.
It is made from 6mm thick stainless steel - but because it's made for measurement it has a perfect fit and because the thickness it does not hurt the schoulder …
If you like, visit the sm-factory.com - the collar we own since seven years is the „Heaven´s Hell” (http://www.sm-factory.de/en/shop/110/110-010.htm) and its a pleasure to se my lovely wife every time wearing the collar in public - presenting lordly her stand …
posted by: Marco & Katrin » Sep 05, 2007 06:27 AM
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