BDSM experience

Nipples are not only highly erogenous zones but also has a good potential for different kinds of play. There is a variety of ways to engage nipples in BDSM session, teasing, squeezing, pinching, chilling, licking and pulling them.

If you want to experience sweet pain from nipple torture, you may use nipple clamps designed to provide the desired effect. There are different types of nipple clamps that can also be applied on other sensitive areas like clitoris or scrotum. Many people use homemade devices like clothespins for this purpose, though nipple clamps may be a safer option if you decide to engage them into play.

Nipple clamps can give a wide range of sensations from the mild to almost unbearable pain. When you start using nipple clamps it is important to explore sub's limits step by step.

1. Keep in mind that time required for nipple torture is limited. The tighter you squeeze sub's nipples with the clamps, the shorter should be your session. The pressure you apply on nipple clamps reduces the blood flow to the nipples and this may lead to the damage of the tissue. It is recommended to leave the clamps no more than 20 minutes.
2. Place the clamps on the nipples and let your partner adjust to the pressure. You can also put some weight stretching the tissue.
3. You can also manipulate the way your partner feels pain, by releasing the clamps for a while and reapplying the pressure again.
4. Also the release of nipple clamps is painful itself either if you do it suddenly or pull out the clamps slowly. This often feels very painful and may be even more harder tolerated than actual pressure on nipples. Just a gentle touch with your lips on sub's nipples after the play will add a feeling of burning.
5. Another way to intensify sub's sensations is to cool them off with ice during the nipple torture or before. It increases nipple's sensitivity as cold skin is more receptive to stimulation.
6. You may also decorate sub's nipples for visual pleasure, attaching them to the collar or handcuffs, bed or any body part. This will make any movements painful and is also very effective way to stimulate your sub mentally, realizing that he or she is helpless in any way. If you want your sub to experience a whole mix of sensations, you may try to tease and play with sub's genitals adding more pleasure and pain
7. Always watch over your sub's reactions and do not overdo with nipple torture. Do not use this type of play every session as they may loose their sensitivity and won't be receptive to touch. There is no need to torture nipples for a long time as your goal is to intensify sexual pleasure, not making it absolutely uncomfortable.
8. Try different types of nipple plays, whipping them or binding them for breast bondage. This will add unpredictability to the session and your sub won't get used to the pain, having new sensations over and over again.
9. Take care of nipple clamps safety and sterilize them after use as bacteria left on the surface may hold a great risk for sub's health. Always check for any breakage or rough edges to prevent damage to the skin.

A natural problem that comes to most who just enter the realities of BDSM activity ( ) is finding an appropriate partner. Even with the availability of internet resources where you can privately browse through dozens of suggestion of all sorts, making a thoughtful choice becomes extremely topical within the realms of such meetings.



If you think that all that is needed can be explained in a list of your preferences - you are absolutely mistaken. The same as vanilla relationship, BDSM one is also based on principles which are far more important because in most cases we are talking about activity that borders on safety. Even talking about a single session, the interactions between the partners take place not only on physical level but a lot on emotional as well. It not just-" I want someone to spank me- give me the one", it's more like - I want to find a partner to submit to, which in fact doesn't happen automatically. We should also keep in mind that BDSM relationships need certain trust and it takes some time to get familiar with each other and meet each other's needs. You don't simply give in the responsibility to someone - you choose a person -you want to give in power to find that connection. Undeniably, there are certain rules you should follow while you are in search for a partner:

Trying paces

Before you may get into real trouble, you should ask more about the group you are going to enter. If it's an online community, then greater care should be taken in order to make all the information clear. It may be useful to get acquainted with some members to find out their opinion. As usually these places are kept in secret, you must learn the ways to contact members discretely.

Online meeting

Certainly there are a lot of advantages about finding a partner on the internet: you have a wide choice, you may more thoroughly get to know each other before actually meeting. In some places you may be asked to leave some personal information, like e-mail, name and address. You should know that it's not necessary and even advisable not to do it. If you treasure your privacy and safety, you first check out and make sure things are not troubled and then go for whatever practice your body urges you to get involved.

How is a real meeting organized?

It's more preferable to arrange a first meeting in a public place. There is no need to explain that suggestion shouldn't sound like a person's house or some suspicious backyard room. It's also not a good idea to meet tet-a-tet on a first meeting. It may sound as if bad things can never happen to you, but in reality there are a lot of cases when such meetings resulted in fatal consequences. Always have a safe way-out to detach from a suspicious person. Don't judge a possible partner by a mere online chat - get his phone number or any other sources of information like address or contacts from the place where he works.

Have a backup

This shouldn't sound like an ultimate deterrent, but nevertheless you cannot ignore the possibility that a stranger you met out there may turn out to be a sick maniac who doesn't give a damn about any SSC principles or your kinky plans on Friday evening but simply feels like butchering some silly "weirdo." That's why you should have someone to keep connection with (either a friend or a family member) and inform about the time and place you are going to visit.

I began to realize the nature of those subtle feelings through my relationships. It always seemed to me that simple and so-called "natural" way of relating with the lover didn't give me the intensity I strived for. Unattainable and prohibited made me just alive. Pain and suffering seemed to put everything in order. In fact it was difficult to find the right partner to understand what I really wanted and finding the one who was initially a "master type" was rather an intuitive choice. Cold and hard-hearted, who will resist and rule was giving me a comfort I needed. It was like a great revelation to me and I couldn't help but deny those thoughts, until I learned to accept them as they are. Though, I generally consider myself submissive, switching parts is also rather appealing but not to such a degree as the desire to obey.



Those were very mixed feelings of pain and urge to submit and sense it like a real pleasure. And it sensed like natural to have both of the emotions poles entwined.



When you realize and accept those feelings it is much better for me as it gives some certainty and your relationships become more set within the limits of mutual consent. It's very important to me as abuse or violation is surely not an aim. When you know it's actually a game and in the end the parts will leave the scene and everyone will know that both will be safe.

The urge to explore the whole range of sensations was always present in me though this was not always obvious fact for me. Actually I probably always sensed that you whole self is making you search for things which offer you not only a pure satisfaction but more like intensity of sensations. Besides, sex as just a way to steam off was initially uninteresting to me. Personally, there should be something above the physical stuff. Eventually I came to see BDSM as a whole vision of my inner urges melted with my sexual desires.



Probably one of the most erotic arts, BDSM is giving me the opportunity not only to interact with a partner on a more intimate level but also to get to the awareness of my own potential and face my fears.



As BDSM is not an abuse or a kind of violence, you require a real heck of trust and intimacy. The thing is that BDSM play makes you balance you on the edge, and sometimes borders on a fine line between things you can or can't tolerate. It's quite good that there are certain rules for BDSM and while you follow them you are sure to get maximum pleasure out of it.







While you go through a certain tension and extremity during BDSM exploration you get in touch with yourself and then relieve is just great. You just go the whole way to the darkest side of yourself and search for that border you won't be able to cross any more. The overall thought of experiencing pleasure through negative sensations is pretty thrilling in itself. But you never know it for sure until you try it. It's all or nothing after all.