Humiliation can be very sexy and enjoyable in BDSM context. There are a lot of plays intended to make partners experience the pleasure of being humiliated or being the one who humiliates.

Often humiliation becomes a source of erotic satisfaction to those partners who know each other quite good as these types of play are intimate. It is important to note that what one sub will find highly arousing, another would consider unpleasant. That's why it is worth discussing the likes and dislikes beforehand.

For a submissive partner the pleasure of humiliation is derived through the feeling of freeing from inhibitions. During the scene sub can face the dark side of his nature and through humiliation one experiences a psychological release.

Becoming a true dominatrix may require a lot of skills, confidence and responsibility. For many women, their dominant role is an expression of her deepest desires and embodiment of her real sexuality. You might have thought about trying this role but do not know where to begin. First of all you should learn how to control your submissive so that you and your sub can get the utmost pleasure.

Nipples are not only highly erogenous zones but also has a good potential for different kinds of play. There is a variety of ways to engage nipples in BDSM session, teasing, squeezing, pinching, chilling, licking and pulling them.

If you want to experience sweet pain from nipple torture, you may use nipple clamps designed to provide the desired effect. There are different types of nipple clamps that can also be applied on other sensitive areas like clitoris or scrotum. Many people use homemade devices like clothespins for this purpose, though nipple clamps may be a safer option if you decide to engage them into play.

Breast bondage is one of the most popular plays a doms use to satisfy their subs. Breasts are source of sexual pleasure, with a lot of nerve endings especially for women, which explains why it became one of the favorite techniques used in bondage.

Besides, with the subconscious meaning of the breasts as nourishment, giving the additional psychological appeal of total female submissiveness.

Bondage toys are meant for restriction of the sub's movements and may range from simple rope to complicated devices like sleepsacks, cages and suspension devices, masks and others.

Very often bondage toys are used to perform punishment thus playing the role of immobilization for better performance.

Before you even begin using bondage toy, it is necessary to know basic safety measures as fixation of certain body parts with the help of different devices and bondage toys often leads to blood flow restriction. It is recommended to make session last no more than two hours.

Choosing a good position for spanking is important to allow a comfortable angle for easy spanking throughout prolonged time.
They are able to swing their arm at a natural angle and able to sustain a lengthy spanking with ease because of their position
Depending on a position of your partner you can derive different sensations. The usual positions during spanking is bent, over the knee, lying flat, standing, diaper but there are also a lot of variations to these positions that will influence the intensity of sensations. Usually, the more stretched you are in a bent over, for example, the harder will be experience and the stronger will be sensations.

When you are choosing a suitable toy for spanking, it is important to keep in mind certain rules:

• If you are a beginner, consider toys that will be relatively easy to exercise with, like paddles or riding crops. The floggers with multiple tails require some practice as they tend to wrap around the body that can cause the unnecessary harm to your partner.
• Different toys give different sensations from sting to thud. In this regard you should rely on your partner's preferences. If he/she enjoys deep and protruding sensations over the large area than paddles and leather floggers would be just right. If sub is a lover of sharp sensations closer to the surface of the skin, that the best toys for you would be riding crops and canes as well as rubber floggers.

Very often people who are not familiar with BDSM lifestyle have a vague idea of what it means being partly impressed by the images they've seen in mass media or generally scared about entering the world of unknown.

However, for many BDSM lovers this world is the only place they feel at home.

For many people pain is seen as a negative thing or something that cannot be completely avoided but one that should be learned to cope with. We do not usually seek for pain and it may sound unusual to understand how a person can derive pleasure from pain. However, pain is one of the most desirable thing for S/M lovers.

So what is the purpose and why pain makes a day for those who are involved in S/M? Bottom is the one who enjoys to be tortured, the feeling of pain and suffering is sweet, and top is the one who urges to inflict pain (not without bottom's consent).

Many people from and outside BDSM community question the necessity of sexual intercourse during the session. Indeed, where is a place of sex in BDSM and is it essential for such sort of relationships?

First of all, if we talk about BDSM sessions, sexual arousal is almost always present in any BDSM play. A sub derives pleasure from being tortured while dom feels gratification from being the one in power. However, most of the BDSM players will say that sex is not the purpose but rather a variation to one of the numerous plays.

Of course, there are such things as orgasm denial, when the main focus is made at tease and denial, and not at the sexual release if it happens. Sexual arousal occurs in the course of the session and this intensity is often much more powerful than sexual act. A sub who urges to be mentally humiliated is turned on by the fact that he is verbally abused and that happens without actual touch. Basically, the core of BDSM relationships is not sex itself but a sort of pleasure that is obtained through the interaction of both sub and dom.